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In this week of insurrection, when an ever-worsening pandemic manages to be a sub-headline, Donald Trump — this “president” of ours who does not have enough impulse control to qualify for a Twitter or Shopify account — continues to have access to the nuclear codes and a country’s fate.

But what about how divisive it would be to take him out of office? (I hate to break it to you, but that ship has sailed.)

But there are only nine days left! (And all it took was a walk down Pennsylvania Avenue for our nation’s capital to be breached, invaded…


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In the immediate wake of my abusive relationship, I remember turning the word depleted over again and again in my head. Never before had I so specifically felt like this — physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Like all abusers, mine didn’t see me as a person, but as an object, a means to an end. What could I provide? What could he take? And then he took those things. Some of them, I gave. Others, he took for himself. By the end, I was wrung out.

The one thing he took above all else was my energy and my brain space…


Nicholas Van Noy, in Wyoming on a cross-country road trip, 2002.

This Christmas season feels especially magical. For the first time, my almost-two-and-a-half-year-old daughter really understands what’s going on. It has been a season of laughter, joy, excitement, togetherness, and lots and lots of baking. It’s been the type of holiday that makes it easy for me to forget that not everyone is having this sort of experience.

And this is something I feel very strongly about remaining mindful of, because I have been on the other side of all of the togetherness and merriment. On the outside looking in, through what seems like a wall of impenetrable glass. …


This Simple Hack Makes Bettering Yourself and Achieving Your Dreams as Easy as 1–2–3

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One week into the new year is often a loaded time. Perhaps you feel like throwing your head back and casting your arms out wide, shouting, “I’m the king of the world!” DiCaprio-style because you’ve been so diligent about sticking to your New Year’s resolutions so far. Or perhaps you feel more like you’re slowly losing your grip on the too-small piece of wood that’s precariously keeping you afloat.

Either way — or even if you’re somewhere in the middle — the truth of the matter is we’ve still got fifty-one weeks left to go. …


Practical Steps for Cultivating the Life You’ve Always Wanted

While “creating your dream life” might sound like a romantic, far-flung notion that can be achieved by only the most special among us, in practice, it actually takes a lot of pragmatism and determination. There’s nothing magical about building your dream life — even though some moments along the way might feel like they’re sprinkled in fairy dust. Any one of us can live the life of our dreams, no matter what our circumstances are in the current moment or where we come from. Yes, that means you too. …

Nikki Van Noy

Best-selling author and podcaster.

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